A Birthday Celebration

Horses at Giba Gorge

Some of the horses having a snack break

Today would have been the 53rd birthday of Trevor, but he was not to see it.  Not on this plane, anyhow.

Younger Daughter and the kids went to a church service early (I hope the roof is stable and won’t collapse from the shock) and then we decided to go on the sort of excursion Trevor would have approved of had he still been with us.  We took the kids for lunch and horse-riding at Giba Gorge.

J testing no-holding-on riding.

J trying out hands-free.

R riding at Giba

R on her outride.

I even managed to have a short ride myself.  It has been some time since I have been on board a horse, but it still felt completely natural to me and my spirits were uplifted by it.


An aloe at the stables

This evening R and J auditioned for a Durban Has Talent show in my bedroom while MBH and YD were watching TV in the lounge.  They sang various songs.  The teddy bear and doll judges all gave a resounding ‘Yes,’ apart from a stuffed crocodile who kept saying, ‘No!’ or trying to push the ‘X’ button, but got beaten up by all the teddies for being difficult.

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Active septic geranium who plays with words writing fantasy novels and professionally editing, with notes writing classical music, and with riding a mountain bike, horses and dinghies. Recently Indie Publishing has been added to this list.
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42 Responses to A Birthday Celebration

  1. Great pics, Col. Little J is sooo very cute. 🙂


  2. Mélanie says:

    ❤ … HHH = huge heartfelt hugs…


  3. Tokeloshe says:

    The girls look like they are doing well, I think they are fortunate to have such a supporting and loving family.


    • colonialist says:

      It is still going to take some time for them to adjust, and it is a tribute to Trevor that I think they will continue to feel a gap in their lives, even after a lot of time has elapsed.


  4. Kathleen says:

    What a lovely way to spend the day… btw, I am sure those teddies did a good job with that croc. 😉


  5. After my dad’s funeral and family reception back home, my mother and I kicked off our shoes and opened a bottle of champagne. Not that we were glad he died, but rather to celebrate his life, and do something he would have wanted us to do. Sometimes gloomy bereavement doesn’t do it. We have to take from the joy someone’s life gave to us. You seemed to do that pretty well for Trevor.


    • colonialist says:

      That’s the way, and is also our way of thinking. I would hate people to be moping around miserably when I ride into the sunset. (Not that I would really like any relieved comments of, ‘Phew, at last!’ either!)


  6. Nicola says:

    A lovely way to spend the day, the hands free is looking most impressive


  7. gipsika says:

    Hi Col. Looking through my spiritual lenses I can tell you he was almost 100% definitely there with you and the fam.

    I’m amazed at how long and gangly little R has become, and how big baby J is by now.

    Love to you all. Special hugs to the little ones.


  8. Colline says:

    I am sure that Trevor would be happy to see you all doing something he loved – especially as it uplifted your spirits.


  9. Arkenaten says:

    Simon Cowell eat your heart out?
    Good one , Col.


  10. I am sure Trevor was smiling upon you and this day. What a lovely day spent in honour of someone who was and is much loved.


  11. The Asian says:

    I’m sure that wherever Trevor is, he’s glad that you went out to celebrate his birthday rather than sit at home and grieve


  12. MoreThanACat says:

    I’m glad you chose to celebrate. This way, I hope the grandchildren realise death is just part of life and it doesn’t stop you enjoying your loved one. Thanks for sharing


    • colonialist says:

      It seems the right way to go about it. I think the Chakas (bump everyone off who doesn’t cry enough) and Queen Victorias (go into deep mourning for the rest of time) are not good examples to follow.

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  13. calmgrove says:

    Thank you Col for sharing this. It’s a reminder that we all need to put things into context while retaining our humanity.


  14. melouisef says:

    I think you are an excellent grandfather !


  15. misswhiplash says:

    it is good to remember Trevor’s birthday.
    You really do have a wonderful sense of humour…I would love to have seen he Bedroom Talent Show….well done Grandpa!


  16. haydendlinder says:

    It’s my first time to your blog so I couldn’t bring myself to push “Like” on the previous two posts. I am very sorry he’s gone but it looks like it was a very good birthday for the girls.


  17. A dose of normality must be what is needed in your family now, for the sake of the littlies. tThey are too small to grieve constantly.


  18. I have to tell you that I don’t know the context of much of what is shared here, but this is a very touching post. I see that Trevor was someone you cared about, and to not be here to celebrate a a 53rd birthday tells me a great deal. Entirely too soon! Your wonderful sense of humor still peeked through, and I’m glad that attending church didn’t bring down the roof around the ears of those you love so dearly. 🙂


  19. Pussycat44 says:

    A very appropriate way to celebrate Trevor’s life.
    The crocodile’s name must be Simon!


  20. newsferret says:

    That is the way to do it and I am sure it carries Trevor’s approval wherever he now may be.

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