The day was supposed to be devoted to editing, sorting out a faulty pool filter, repairing a collapsed bird feeder, a bit of writing, and taking more steps towards making the move into the main house feasible.
Well, the bird feeder did get managed. Also an entirely unsuccessful dismantling and reassembly of the filter.
Other things of greater import got in the way of the rest. A friend whose husband is overseas called in the morning for a long chat, and in the afternoon a next-door neighbour came visiting to unburden herself of the worries attached to her 64-year-old husband in hospital being stabilised, and the need to break the news to him, after he had responded to treatment, that he had Stage 4 cancer and a life expectancy of about six months. She took a positive slant and we talked about relatives with a similar prognosis who had lived for many years thereafter – or were still living after five years.
This positivism was shattered later on in the afternoon, when she interrupted conversation to take a call – informing her that her husband had, in fact, just died in hospital.
Of course, she stayed on, and shared dinner with us after she had control of her emotions. Little J was particularly sweet to her and said she could be a second mommy – the couple were childless. My 4-year-old granddaughter often displays an extraordinary sensitivity and charm.
Media vita in morte sumus — in the midst of life we are in death.
That is heartbreaking, Col! 😦 At least, you could be there to console.
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Wow. I’m glad you made time for your neighbor at such an opportune/ inopportune time. And how wonderful that Little J bestowed a heaping helping of kindness on her.
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Right after family and friends come neighbors when you live in a community, and you seem to. I can only imagine how much your neighbor appreciated being with friends at this time of loss.
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I am glad we were in a position to help. After moving from a very ‘private’ neighbourhood, we are still adjusting to the pleasant sense of community in our new one.
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Neighbors are important. Something knew that this was a kinder end and she was in a safe compassionate place.
How wise children are.
The universe is so strange
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It would seems so; they are; and it most certainly is!
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How fortunate that your neighbour was with you all when she received the sad news. Little J is such a sweetie, and must have brought some comfort and a smile with her timely offer. 🙂 That certainly was quite a day you had.
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Quite a day, indeed, and I do think that J showed wisdom beyond her years in that and quite a few other comments she made.
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Gosh, what a day, and perhaps his quick death was a blessing
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A day and a half! I think you are right, actually. The alternative could have been an extended period of severe pain and discomfort for him, and anguish for his family.
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Oy Col, that’s such a sad story. So glad she had you guys to lean on. Big hugs to you all.
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It was a severe shock for us, and it must have been devastating for her.
Thanks.
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Julle buurvroutjie is geseënd om sulke bure te hê.
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Dis net soos bure behoort te wees. Die laaste keer toe ek haar man gesien het, het hy my ‘n guns gedoen.
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A difficult day. You.are a good neighbour, and your little ones too will help your friend.
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Wearing on the emotions, certainly.
I was proud of the youngsters for giving such intuitive support.
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Tears in my eyes…what a bitter-sweet day. Glad you all were there to support her!
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It was fortunate – but certainly emotionally draining!
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Wonderful that your neighbour could be among people she trusts and relies on when she received the sad news.
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I am glad that during only just over a year that we have been in this neighbourhood, we have become known as people worthy of turning to in time of need.
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some days just twist and turn and land us right where we are meant to be – being a shoulder, a hot meal, and a child’s love to a friend in need. May grace and mercy surround you all.
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Some things do, indeed, seem ‘meant’. It would have been horrible for her to have received that news while completely alone.
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Yes. You were definitely angels of mercy.
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Your day may not have turned out as planned but I think it was good of you to support your friend in her time of need.
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We had a special sense of being ‘needed’, so it was an enriching experience albeit sad.
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Again, can’t like, but can sympathize with life intruding on life.
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Whenever it does that, it creates a pause for re-evaluation of what is and isn’t important.
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Quite a day – my sympathy to your friend who did not have time for goodbyes.
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Her consolation is that she took leave of him only when he was semi-comatose. No further meaningful contact would have occurred as he never came out of the state.
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