The year 2018 has decided to test our mettle, and this second week particularly so. Christmas cards arriving late (with our postal system, how should it be otherwise?) contained messages of gloom, injury and doom from some friends and relations.
Then, at the middle of this week, I learnt that a lady senior to me in years, whom I worked with for many years, had died. The first news we had of it was from a mutual friend who attended the funeral. The surviving sister is shattered (they had lived together as spinsters for their whole lives with only one break of a few months when one went to England alone). My name came up in conversation after the ceremony. She remembered me, having been my typist at work for a number of years, and asked our mutual friend (a wonderful cat benefactor) to arrange for me to call on her to discuss the estate and business matters. This I did and found her very frail and upset.
Then I discovered a worrying situation involving another friend of hers who had been assisting with arranging her finances, but was now apparently not wanted on the scene by certain parties. These had arranged for an attorney’s warning letter (warning at the start, anyway) regarding the fact that she was questioning certain financial activities, construed as impugning the reputation of the person involved. This then went on to demand, in quasi-legal terms, an impossibly large sum of damages plus legal costs.
I drafted a letter for her which warned the attorneys that their letter was riddled with inaccuracies and appeared to contain actionable intimidation. This letter, in turn, demanded a retraction of their allegations plus an apology.
Other deaths in this lady’s family were then the cause of moves by her husband and others which meant I had to send this letter chasing around South Africa to make it possible for a hard copy to be placed in her hands.
Now I am watching the situation to see if anyone steps out of line before the will is read and Letters of Executorship are provided.
Then, on Thursday 11th, we received a request to arrange for someone who had been employed in a firm managed by Younger Daughter’s late husband to be taken to hospital. We have ‘adopted’ him and have been assisting him wherever possible over the past few years, with free accommodation in back rooms at the home of Sister-in-Law, and with transport for medical visits etc, and making application for a pension (what a performance that was!) and with managing his finances.
As soon as I appeared at his door, he insisted on rising to his feet to shake my hand, as has always been his custom. I could tell immediately he was far from well, though. Obvious pleurisy was making his breathing laboured, and placing a strain on his heart — he had been warned that he should have a pacemaker. The ladies phoned for an ambulance while I helped him pack and gather his documents. There was no possibility of getting him down the many steps and to the hospital ourselves. So, we waited and waited. And waited. Eventually, when Brother-in-Law got back from work after three hours, Much Better Half and I came home. I finished the mowing I had started in the morning.
It still took over an hour after we had left for the ambulance to arrive.
Our friend was put on oxygen before being loaded, and according to S-i-L he perked up immediately.
After supper, while I stayed home with the kids, YD and MBH went straight to the hospital he had been taken to.
There they were given the news that he had died shortly after arrival in the Emergency Room. A sobering thought: he was nine years younger than I am. Little did I know that his handshake greeting, given with such effort, would also turn out to be a farewell salute.
Relatives are in Australia, so we had to handle matters.
On Friday 12th I called in undertakers and we went to the hospital and spent a number of hours filling in documents to the best of our ability, and I formally identified the deceased. YD got hold of the sister in Australia who decided to fly here on Thursday which means the funeral needed to be organised for next Friday. We will put her and husband up.
Then I went to the undertakers to complete further formalities in regard to cremation and the memorial service. In between this lot I had builders visit regarding the completion of unfinished bits around the house we have been awaiting for a year or so. This will be a Blessing (literally, as being the name of his assistant who will do most of the work). My mind wasn’t fully on the instructions I gave …
Finally, I completed platform two on the jungle gym.
To end 12th I have a message to again visit the surviving sister mentioned in the part at the beginning of this post. I will have to try for tomorrow. Now what? And, what next?
Not a great start to your year, but I’m glad you were able to see your friend one last time before his passing. Condolences to you and his family.
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Little did I realise that was a farewell handshake.
Thank you.
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good grief Col!
I’ve been too busy the last few months to worry about writing or reading on WP and am now catching up. What a horrific start to the year – it can only get better and I’m sure karmically you are off to a great start!
ps I thought the whole point in xmas letters/cards was to have a little boast about how amazing you and your family were doing to the world, not send around gloom and doom messages!
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Maybe the fates got the dates wrong. This was supposed to be Good Friday?
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hum. maybe? what with easter being so early this year!
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My goodness. My condolences for your many losses. You are clearly a blessing to those around you and I hope that will give you some comfort.
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It is certainly some consolation to be able to be of assistance in these sorts of circumstances.
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And so we will leave one by one 😔
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Some on schedule, but some seem to jump the queue a bit!
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That’s one way of looking at it yes 😀
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Any words from me would be superfluous but you’ll know that my thoughts and sympathies are with you and your family and friends who are left coping with the fallout of unexpected circumstances.
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Thanks! These sorts of things would be preferred one at a time.
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What a bad start to 2018. You are evidently striving to help everyone as much as possible. Congratulations on completing platform two of the jungle gym. I hope Blessing lives up to his name. Have a good weekend.
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It is keeping me out of mischief, and so do I hope that!
Hope yours was good
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You are incredibly kind and I hope it is repaid by the fates soon.
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What the fates too often do is say gleefully, ‘Oh, goody, a willing horse!’ and load one with more of the same! 🙂
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Talk about having your plate full! You have always come across as the Man With A Plan. I am sure you’ll get it sorted.
I salute you, Les.
Hope there are calmer waters for the rest of the year.
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Well, I certainly hope the rest of 2018 doesn’t intend to be like this!
Thanks!
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Good grief
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Certainly some grief involved, but unfortunately not a very good variety! But I know what you mean …
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“Retirement” has no meaning to you, Les! What a wonderful friend you are-sorting out everyone’s problems! Wish we lived closer to you! Hahaha!
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One could not wish for better.
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My appointment book is full at the moment! 🙂
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I clicked like because I liked/admired your kindness and committment to others, no matter how time consuming or anxiety making… what a good friend you are…
Hope the rest of your year is less taxing on your goodwill and emotional resources …
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Thank you. Things do seem to be resolving themselves on these two cases, after spending a lot of time glued to the phone today!
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Terrible start to the year. Condolences with your losses, and best wishes with all the challenges still ahead. Here’s hoping that in 350 days from now you’ll be able to say that the year as a whole was much better than its start. I myself need to drive a roundtrip of 500km today to attend a funeral in Ermelo.
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Thank you. That is indeed a challenging distance — and if you have to drive back you can’t even fortify yourself with liquid refreshment at the function!
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Definitely not a good way to start the year… condolences for your loss
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Thanks. I do hope I am getting my full dose of this sort of thing for the year in one go!
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Certainly not an auspicious beginning to the year. Hope some of this resolves favorably and quickly.
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I am, understandably, hoping all of it does, and goes away!
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This is one of those occasions where clicking Like seems verv wrong, however, I have done so.
A complicated and sad process for you to deal with Leslie and I wish you well in the execution of this. I also offer my condolences and also to the remaining sister.
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Thanks. At least I am now able to report definite progress on both matters.
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That is very good news
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